Opinion: Is Forgiveness Conditional for Christians?

They can build bridges or erect walls, heal wounds or inflict pain. As followers of Christ, we are called to wield our words with care, reflecting the grace we have received. Yet, there are moments when the message of the Gospel is overshadowed by actions that challenge its very essence. Is forgiveness conditional for Christians what does the Bible say? 

The Essence of Forgiveness 

At the heart of Christianity lies a profound call to forgiveness, exemplified by Christ Himself, who, in His final moments, uttered, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do” (Luke 23:34, ESV). This radical act of love serves as a model for how we should approach those who speak against us or misunderstand our intentions.

Forgiveness, as taught by Jesus, is not a bargaining tool or a conditional exchange. It is an expression of grace, freely given, echoing the sentiment of Colossians 3:13 (ESV): “Forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.” This divine principle raises an important question: Is forgiveness conditional for Christians?

When asking for forgiveness is framed as a prerequisite for something, it transforms into a weapon rather than a balm. Such an approach not only distorts the message of the Gospel but also undermines the foundation of Christian community, which is built on love and mutual understanding. 

In John 13:34-35 (ESV), Jesus emphasizes that love for one another is the hallmark of His disciples. True reconciliation occurs within this framework of love—not through threats or demands, but through humility and compassion. Jesus never said he will forgive those who were crucifying him or slandering him He forgave them even before they realized he was innocent. That is the way of Christ

 A Call for Reflection

In moments of conflict or misunderstanding, it is vital to reflect on our motivations and the impact of our words. How do we respond to criticism or opposition? This response speaks volumes about our character and our understanding of Christ’s teachings. Rather than resorting to intimidation, we are called to engage in dialogue, embodying the spirit of reconciliation that should characterize our faith.

The Gospel of Matthew reminds us of the importance of making peace with our brothers before presenting our offerings. In Matthew 5:23-24 (ESV), Jesus instructs, “So if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar and go. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift.” 

This passage underscores that the responsibility to seek peace rests upon the Christian, regardless of who is right or wrong. Now imagine how many offerings we have offered to God while our hearts hold grudges against people or vice versa? Are they received by God ? Only Him knows.

Moreover, Paul echoes this sentiment in Romans 12:18 (ESV), stating, “If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.” This call to peace emphasizes that our role as followers of Christ is to actively pursue reconciliation, thereby reflecting the heart of our faith.

The Power of Humility

The parable of the Pharisee and the tax collector (Luke 18:10-14, ESV) poignantly illustrates that self-righteousness can cloud our judgment. The Pharisee, confident in his own worthiness, overlooks his need for grace, while the tax collector humbly seeks mercy. 

This contrast invites us to examine our hearts and approach others with a spirit of humility, recognizing that we all stand in need of forgiveness. Let us not always be quick to justify ourselves rather let us seek our hearts everytime we are criticized to see where we might have gone wrong and repent. Let’s also be quick to ask for forgiveness once the Spirit of God convinces us.

As we navigate the complexities of our relationships, both within the church and beyond, we must grapple with the question: Is forgiveness conditional for Christians? Genuine forgiveness, as modeled by Christ, is not about demands; it is about grace, understanding, and a willingness to engage with one another in love.

In this age of digital communication, where words can spread rapidly and misunderstandings can escalate, may we choose to emulate Christ’s example. 

Let us be known not for harsh words or demands for contrition, but for our ability to forgive freely, extending the same grace we have so generously received. The world is watching, and our response could very well illuminate the true nature of our faith.

Author: Fabrice Nzeyimana